New series alert!
I've decided to start a weekly post here where I share some of my absolute favourite things. They could be anything...things I've been listening to, watching, eating, buying or just enjoying in general. So for my very first 'My Favourite Things' I've decided to share some of my favourite podcasts to listen to. So, in no particular order, here goes...
THE GUILTY FEMINIST
Hosted by Deborah Frances-White, this podcast is an absolute revelation. I have learnt so much in such a short time and have had such great fun doing it as well. Deb is full of knowledge and interesting points of view.
She explains Feminism in a way that is both beautiful and easy to understand. The guests are brilliant, witty and inspirational. In short, I would seriously recommend this podcast to everyone - man, woman, child, it doesn't matter! Please give it a listen!
THE FRINGE OF IT
This podcast is hosted by Liv Purvis of What Olivia Did and Charlotte Jacklin of Betty Magazine.
These two are a must listen. They cover everything from day to day millennial life to deeper issues like race and activism.
They are an absolute joy to listen to and full of great one-liners and witty commentary. I relate to them so much and I can't get enough of this podcast! Definite must listen
THE GARETH CLIFF SHOW
The Gareth cliff show is a breakfast show which you can listen to live (as a radio show) via The Cliff Central app or in podcast format post-recording. The show is South African centric but Gareth and co are full to the brim with knowledge and witty repartee. The GCS is all about uncensored real conversation about current affairs. Highlight for me is ‘Said by Siya’ and Bens Sport which is the most interesting sports reporting you’ll ever hear.
*I don’t always agree with his views but find the show as a whole very interesting and enjoy it for all the knowledge it offers up.
THE HIGH LOW
Dolly Alderton & Pandora Sykes are the hosts of the High Low podcast. On the podcast they chat about everything from everyday life to whats happening in the world of politics and how it impacts on us as people living in the world created by our leaders.
Two brilliant women who are both brilliant feminists and lovers of life.
They give fabulous book, movie and series recommendations and are a lot of fun to listen to.
'Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine' is Gail Honeyman's debut novel and wow is it good. This book had me from the very first page. I found it extremely hard to review, not because it was bad but in fact because of how damn good it was. Every single time I would type something, and it just did nothing for me, the words that I was writing simply didn't capture the book well enough. If you haven't noticed, this is me still struggling...
I decided to just go with it and write about it, we'll just see how it turns out shall we?
I absolutely loved this book and so much of it rang true for me. Eleanor is such a brilliant heroine, she's got some absolutely fantastic throwaway comments and she's just so different from your average character. It is this difference which really makes this book though. Besides, how many heroines from books and/or movies do you know who are called Eleanor?
When we first meet Eleanor, she is most definitely not fine and is 100% stuck in a rut. She scorns other peoples need for human connection and distances herself from everyone. Eleanor is a typical loner with the addition of a rather ironic superiority complex. She sees herself as better than everyone else which is in rather stark contrast to her actual situation. Eleanor lives a structured life with her day to day being more about needs than wants. She has a strict routine which she sticks to like glue, which includes everything from her clothes to her Friday night frozen pizza and bottle of vodka combination.
Eleanor's lonliness and withdrawal from society has clearly caused depression even if it does go unnoticed by her. Her commentary on depression is so wonderful when she describes it as a “fearful, incurable thing, so horrifying that you dare not mention it; other people don’t want to hear the word spoken aloud for fear that they might too be afflicted". Though it may seem like a throwaway line, it is both extremely important and incredibly accurate.
I found myself relating to her in a different way than I had ever related to any other character from a book. This is the quintessential 'don't judge a book by its cover' lesson. In the beginning, Eleanor seems very odd and difficult to relate to (even if we've all shared her thoughts on humanity once or twice) but once you get to know her and learn about her story and how well she has actually coped with everything she's been through, you develop a new respect for her as a character.
Everything changes when she meets the rather unhygienic IT guy, Raymond who she works with. He is Eleanor's antithesis in almost every single way possible. They end up walking back from work together one day and witness a man collapsing. Eleanor is roped into helping this man by Raymond even though she feels no sort of sympathy for him. This man is called Sammy and slowly her whole life and world view change as a result of this one man.
The book follows Eleanor’s journey from her thoroughly traumatic past to a future where she might have a life rather than just a mere existence. Through Sammy and Raymond and their many friends and family members, Eleanor begins to understand how important it is to have friends and people who actually care about you and how important it is to have that element of human connection.
This book is a brilliant commentary of how connected each and every person is. How any act of kindness, no matter how small and insignificant it may seem to you at the time is vital. Sammy teaches Eleanor about love and friendship and how people improve each others lives just by being there. He is the very first person to hold Eleanor's hand and to look at her in a completely non judgemental way. Alongside Eleanor and her snide world view, we learn how vital it is to look upon each other with kindness.
Whilst Eleanor Oliphant is most definitely not completely fine, she is one fantastically different, vibrant and brilliant heroine. In short, this book will make you want to invite every single person you know round for a cup of tea and a hug...even the weird ones.
This book is an absolute must-read!
I cannot properly express my love for this absolutely beautiful piece of literature from Eva Woods. 'How To Be Happy' is an absolutely brilliant book which explores the fact that it is often the smallest things which make the biggest difference. The difference between actually living, feeling and being alive and simply existing. The book explores the way so many people just trudge through life, always settling and never really happy. It explores the difference between living your life waiting for the storm to pass and dancing in the rain.
When we meet Annie, she is the prime example of someone who is trudging through a miserable and unhappy life. She is so deeply unhappy and has been hurt so many times that she has literally forgotten what it's like to be happy. She lives her life out as if it were just a movie playing before her eyes, stuck in a rut, going to work everyday to do a job which brings her no joy whatsoever with people she doesn't particularly like. She lives in a uniform of black and is in general, just miserable and lonely. Her mum has just been diagnosed with early onset dementia and is stuck in hospital. Annie visits everyday even though, most of the time, her mother cannot remember who she is.
The day we meet her is the day on which her life is set to be changed forever is, for all intents and purposes, a 'normal' day. Annie is at the office in the hospital trying to change her mothers address so that her post will go to Annie instead which, though it sounds easy is proving difficult if not impossible. Then she meets Polly who is the epitome of happiness, a rainbow on legs and the complete opposite of Annie.
Polly, Annie learns quite quickly is dying...terminal cancer. She has been given 100 days to live and is trying in earnest perhaps for the first time in her life to actually start living. To use up the small amount of life she has left in her to do all the things she really wants to do. Polly is trying to fit 35 years of living into 100 days. She is wearing all the clothes which she has but has never worn because they just weren't quite right for the occasion. Polly is like a living rainbow, throwing joy around everywhere she goes, inspiring others and being bright and cheerful. Somehow, Polly manages to drag Annie into her '100 Days Of Happiness' and through those days spent together, they learn from each other.
They form a beautiful friendship in the short space of time and together, they do everything from going up the shard to dancing in a fountain. Polly gives Annie her friendship and in doing that essentially, teaches Annie how to live again while she herself is dying. She shows Annie how to move on from the past, shows her that everyone is dealing with something and battling their own demons. They help each other to move past what has happened to them and along their way, they re-kindle old friendships and spark new ones.
They teach each other lessons about life like that you're never completely alone in your suffering, that other people suffer silently alongside you. When you only have 100 days left to live, you make every moment count. Make sure that every single thing you do adds something to your life, adds value. Through Polly, Annie learns how to live again, how to forgive and how to love and let people in. Annie takes from Polly hope...
This book is unforgettable and a brilliant life lesson wrapped up in an absolutely beautiful and heart-warming story. It's the sort of book that every single person should read. To remember how lucky you are to have this day, to have no cap on your life. To have the freedom to dance in the rain (or a fountain) to sing out loud and to stop being afraid, maybe just eat what you want. Nobody lives forever...The most brilliant and life-affirming book I have read in a while and really well worth the read or listen:
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I decided to try audible out because I have a long commute at the moment and listening to a great book is a great way to pass the time. I love reading books and I love a tangible book but with a commute come stops and changes as well as the tube. It just always seems like you can't ever really get deeply involved for fear of missing the station you need to get off at. It also always seems to happen that you arrive where you need to be just as you reach a particularly interesting part of the book and you have to put it down...so annoying. I will be doing a series of blog posts reviewing the books I have listened to on Audible as well as a review of Audible itself.
This is by far one of the best books I have ever had the pleasure of reading/listening to. It is a Sunday Times number one best seller for a very good reason. I was enthralled from the first second to the last. The plot was really strong and although I thought I had pretty much figured out what happened halfway through, there were still plenty of twists and turns that I didn't expect and the ending is strong. The terrifying thing about this story is just how realistic it is, how easily the abduction of a child can happen.
The story is told from multiple perspectives and all of those points of view are well written and the shift from person to person is very successful. It's very difficult for an author to keep changing perspectives all the time and do it successfully enough that you can follow the story easily. You get the perspective of the abductor, the abductee (Ellie) and of course her mother (Laurel). Through all of these characters, the story of what happened to Ellie unfolds before you like an intricate puzzle.
Ellie is 15 and undoubtedly the favourite child and when she goes missing everything dissolves and disintegrates for Laurel who is (understandably) in pieces and Ellie's father. She and her husband divorce and the struggle of keeping a marriage together is well documented by Laurel in this. This story is set ten years after Ellie goes missing, the year she should be turning 25. Laurel is clearly still hurting and still unable to cope and move on. She goes through her life on autopilot, going through the motions but never really living.
It is at this point that Laurel meets a charming stranger and his daughter who is so much like Ellie and all her questions about Ellie's disappearance come flooding back...
Well worth a read or listen
Audible link: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Crime-Thrillers/Then-She-Was-Gone-Audiobook/B07287CFP6?ref=a_a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1&pf_rd_p=c6e316b8-14da-418d-8f91-b3cad83c5183&pf_rd_r=Y8WN3RHG580QXQE5QAXB&
How To Stop Time is honestly one of the most incredible books I have had the privilege of reading. Matt Haig must be one of the best authors of our time. The attention he pays to not just a single character but multiple different characters, each with their own story, their own history. Every single character in how to stop time is unique and 3 dimensional. They are those characters that you come to love and by the end of the book, you don't want to let go of.
The characters that Matt Haig describes are those that stay in your heart, those people who you relate to on a human level. He brings pages to life using the light and dark of the human mind.
It is, to me, no wonder that Matt Haig is an international bestseller. How could he possibly not be? This is one of those books that makes you think, the type of book which keeps the brain ticking over and thinking. So rare in any book, something I have not experienced in years and yet so beautiful. It was a rare moment, opening this book and just knowing that this was it...this was that book that was for all intents and purposes a missing link.
It is such a difficult book to describe, how could I possibly describe something which fits into pages so beautifully and yet, as you read, brings about new realisations not just about humans in general but about yourself and who you are.
The book is split into sections which all correspond perfectly. We always come back to present day London and thus the comparisons between history and what is happening in our world right now are that much stronger. Here, we follow Tom Hazard who has lived through it all. We simultaneously discover his past and his present. We discover him as a person and how he has come to be who he is today by seeing his past, we see his present.
It is something that we never get to experience when it comes to other people. All we see is the face and where they are right this minute. We never get to see the behind the scenes, what the person you are looking at has been through to make them who they are today. What has brought them here and where will they go next?
Regardless of who you are and where you are in life, this book is really worth a read.
On Friday Taylor Swift made her rather over-dramatic (in my opinion) comeback with the song 'Look What You Made Me Do'. I actually wasn't all that interested and I had lost so much respect for Taylor over the 'I don't want my music on Spotify because of the artists and the value of music which was swiftly followed by her putting all her music back onto Spotify on the same day as Katy Perry released new music. Not a cool move Tay.Read More
Dunkirk is really no holds barred right from the off. You dive straight into a war zone with no preamble and no character introduction. In my mind this truly is one of Christopher Nolan’s best films, in fact, it may be the best thus far. The film has a distinct lack of dialogue and is instead very visual and thus a very visceral experience. The film is tense, spontaneous and had my full and undivided attention right from the first second.Read More
Having announced their hiatus back in 2015, One Direction have gone their different directions and now each of the boys have solo careers that most artists only dream of. The question does arise though, are they better apart than they were together? All of the boys have gone on to make such amazing music individually that it leaves you wondering whether perhaps they were restricted a lot within 1D.
Harry, who this article is really about, has released his self-titled debut album and I'm absolutely obsessed with it (to put it mildly). In his solo album, I have found that very rare thing, an album you can listen to over and over again and not end up dead bored with. Am I surprised that he pulled it off? No, not at all. It was obvious right from the X-Factor days that Harry was ridiculously talented.Read More